The unusual living arrangement of Katie Blackmer and Stephen Shepard began with a tragedy. The Tennessee couple had divorced in January 2016 but remained committed to co-parenting their three children. Sixteen months later, Stephen was involved in a devastating car accident that killed his brother and left him severely injured, requiring constant care. Despite their divorce, Katie immediately rushed to support him, and after his hospital release, she and her new husband, Ben Blackmer, welcomed Stephen into their 2,500-square-foot home near Nashville.

Initially, Stephen needed full-time assistance for about six weeks while he recovered. Once he regained independence, he chose to remain in the Christiana home. Katie reassured him that he was welcome, and the decision felt natural to all involved. The high cost of housing in the area also made staying with Katie and Ben a practical choice, especially as Ben had been friends with Stephen even before the accident.

The household grew more complex when Stephen began dating Brandy, who eventually moved in as well. By August 2018, the “Blended 10,” as they called themselves, consisted of ten members: Katie, Ben, Stephen, Brandy, and six children—Katie and Stephen’s three, Ben’s 19-year-old son, and Brandy’s two children. The home became a true blended family, combining past and present relationships under one roof.

Despite what outsiders might expect, the living situation has reportedly worked harmoniously. Katie compares it to living with college roommates, with the four adults and six children finding a balance between structure and chaos. Household expenses are split 50/50, and the five-bedroom home is described as hectic but full of love, laughter, and the sounds of children playing, creating a vibrant and supportive environment for everyone.

Katie remains unwavering in her support of this unconventional setup, despite critics questioning the arrangement. Close friends and family have been supportive, and the family has embraced the lifestyle as a long-term plan. For the “Blended 10,” practicality, friendship, and the well-being of their children have taken precedence over traditional post-divorce expectations, proving that alternative family structures can thrive with communication, trust, and care.